Ros Welch is located in the beautiful village of Haddenham in Buckinghamshire, convenient for Chinnor, Bucks.
One of the areas I specialise in is “Saying No”, the following is an extract from a recent article of mine.
Saying no is about respecting yourself and being respected, valuing and recognizing your inner desires, your time and space. To say no is your choice.
Saying No can be important for self preservation whether what is offered is another drink, a chance to help, an opportunity to conform, or forbidden or casual sex.
Rather than avoid it altogether, it’s all about learning the right way to say no, really, the fears of saying no are just in our mind. Saying No after a few drinks is particularly hard as our inhibitions are low but, it is when our decision making skills are not functioning.
Reasons why we don’t say No!
All people are equally capable of self-control though some of us may not believe it, for many, saying I have no self-control is a way of giving ourselves permission to do what we wish.
Neurologists believe that the brain chemistry in the reward centre alters over a period of time when we continually gratify ourselves.
Some of us have a subconscious fear that the opportunity may not come up again, it may not be on offer in the future, grab it now. Might not be asked again, affect future opportunities. This fear may have developed from childhood experience.
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Together we identify goals with realistic outcomes in acceptable timescales. We work positively to make a lasting difference to accept the past, make change in the present, and enhance the future.
Unexpected change can be difficult to manage, it can be hard to think straight given the busy lives we lead, trying to make sense of the unpredictable can leave us anxious, stressed and angry. Life’s changes; redundancy, bereavement, loss, illness or broken relationships can leave us in tatters and Counselling can help you on your journey to acceptance.
“It was very easy to talk to Ros, the sessions were relaxed and comfortable, I felt really heard. She often challenged me and my ideas, I felt I learnt something at every session, I gained insight and self- awareness, it was like a layer of skin being peeled from my eyes.”
“I had always suffered low self esteem and never knew why, Ros was the 1st person who understood, she helped me see things from a different perspective. I feel confident and look forward to my future.”
Following a successful career in design, marketing and finance, following a series of life-changing events I became inspired me, now in my 50’s, to channel my experiences into helping others as a counsellor.
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