Ros Welch is located in the beautiful village of Haddenham in Buckinghamshire, convenient for Waddesdon, Bucks.
The following are extracts from some recent articles of mine:
Couple Counselling: Overcoming an Affair
The affair may have provided something that was lacking in the relationship; sex, excitement or an escape from the stress of financial worries, the affair may not be defined as adultery, may not have included intimate behaviour, possibly internet based not physical but emotional disloyalty, the couple may have differing views on what constitutes an affair and should reach agreement that the relationship enacted emotional betrayal as a basis for restructuring work.
“Once six of one and half a dozen of the other has been taken on board couples are much less likely to fall into the trap of blaming during a nasty argument. After all both halves have contributed to the problem”(Marshall 2006 p58).
The counsellor can help by allowing their stories to be heard with empathy by the other, to allow them to speak and be heard without interruption. To facilitate the envisaging of the others perspective and the teaching of positive communication skills to avoid bickering and blaming.
“The counsellors task is to assist the couple to begin building and living the new story alongside the history of infidelity and pain. At the same time the counsellor should be alert to, and respect, when the infidelity story reasserts itself, and the couple need to know that this does not signify failure or a retrograde step. The infidelity story remains valid; the hope and aim is that it will gradually fade and become less dominant (Payne 2010 p159).
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Together we identify goals with realistic outcomes in acceptable timescales. We work positively to make a lasting difference to accept the past, make change in the present, and enhance the future.
Unexpected change can be difficult to manage, it can be hard to think straight given the busy lives we lead, trying to make sense of the unpredictable can leave us anxious, stressed and angry. Life’s changes; redundancy, bereavement, loss, illness or broken relationships can leave us in tatters and Counselling can help you on your journey to acceptance.
“It was very easy to talk to Ros, the sessions were relaxed and comfortable, I felt really heard. She often challenged me and my ideas, I felt I learnt something at every session, I gained insight and self- awareness, it was like a layer of skin being peeled from my eyes.”
“I had always suffered low self esteem and never knew why, Ros was the 1st person who understood, she helped me see things from a different perspective. I feel confident and look forward to my future.”
Following a successful career in design, marketing and finance, following a series of life-changing events I became inspired me, now in my 50’s, to channel my experiences into helping others as a counsellor.
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