The reasons that couples look for help with their relationships are many; an affair, retirement, financial pressures, parenting, sex, lack of tolerance, a breakdown in communication, life events such as loss, a feeling of detachment or ill-health.
Sometimes it is difficult to see the person with whom you fell in love, life experiences change us and; we do not always change together or; like the person our partner has become.
There may be anger and frustration, you may not share the same agenda any longer or, you may both be desperate to get back in touch with each other and not know how to start, perhaps pride, resentment or injustice is in the way.
Couple therapy can be brief and it can be slow but; what is does do is allow you both to be heard by each other, it will give you tools to de-escalate disputes, methods of good communication in a language you both understand after all…. You once fell in love….
Ironically, couple therapy is also good for the dismantling of relationships, the conscious uncoupling that can allow both parties to feel un-aggrieved to feel heard, and to see a future ahead; separately.
Couple therapy provides a safe space in which you can both be heard, explore the feelings behind the behaviour and often gain new perspective on those issues, breach the distance that has grown up between you and understand that the fear of rejection, the fear of asking the question because you don’t think you want to know the answer, is fear of fear, is based on a assumption that may well be wrong.
Couple counselling re-introduces the honesty that you once had between you, allows you to see the love that is buried under functionality and ultimately allows you both to see the separate selves that fell in love.
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